Christian dating rules for teens
As someone who works with teenagers I have seen almost everything when it comes to teens and dating.
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus. There’s nothing worse than driving three hours with someone you don’t know well. You practically have to be Barbara Walters on a date like this. Being alone on a first date for too long is not a good idea—for many reasons. Don’t plan a date with a ton of time away from people. I know we live in an ever-changing world of political correctness and some people might argue that it’s not the guy’s responsibility to pay, but you should. Also, you should do the math beforehand so you have enough. This makes a boring date bearable and it cuts out a ton of awkward driving time. What I’m saying is, you’re here today because of a $1 scratch-off lottery ticket. I’m not saying you should gamble, far from it, however, if you win anything over $100 we split it 50-50. Think less Jim Carrey and more Carry Grant (super cool actor from a looong time ago, Google him). Being funny is good, but don’t turn the whole night into a joke fest. Vacuum, wipe down the windows, get an air freshener—and make sure your dirty soccer socks have been unearthed from the backseat. Just tell her you had a great time and you hope you can do it again (if that’s the case) and say goodnight. Youth ministry meetings and events provide great opportunities for kids to work on their opposite sex relationships.
If you are providing at least some time when kids can hang out and talk, that’s really all you need to do. Still, typically, there will be some students who are shy or haven’t yet developed the social skills necessary to initiate a conversation with a person of the opposite sex.
Don’t look to her to figure things out—take the initiative. But it’s likely you will date a number of girls along the journey to marriage and you need to treat each one with respect and integrity, because one day they will marry. The theme song for the night should not come from Olivia Newton-John. Seriously, though, she should feel safe and secure both in her environment and with you.
Bonus: If the date goes badly you can always people watch! I bought scratch-off lottery tickets for one of the first dates with your mom and I broke them out right after dinner. On one of our first dates your mom had to cover me for some Chimichangas and I still live with that story today.
You and I have talked a lot about relationships, purity and sex (I know that talk was a little awkward, forgive me for the drawings already), but I wanted to pass along some of the more specific dating deets (do the cool kids still say that?
Here are 15 dating rules that, if followed, will set you up for success and guide you away from some of the worst awkwardness known to mankind.
As you are aware, there really is a major difference between the world’s philosophy about dating and the Christian approach.