Dating a narcissistic men
Narcissists are famous for keeping the metaphorical door open with exes and others who show interest, as they need constant attention and reassurance that they’re desired and wanted.Sadly, narcissists are also motivated to flirt or elicit sexual attention from others as a means of solidifying their own power over the other person in the relationship.
A narcissist will talk at length about his day, but does not seem so interested when you talk about yours; a narcissist loves going out when she makes the plans, but she seems bored or pouty when you set the plans; the narcissist looks for comfort from you when he’s upset, but the way he comforts you when you are upset feels too quick and shallow to truly comfort you.Narcissists are often extremely flirtatious, and relationships with narcissists usually involve frequent arguments about fidelity, jealousy, and flirtation.Narcissists need something called “narcissistic supply,” which is a psychological term that refers to the attention that fuels them.With narcissists, the same bad behavior will keep popping up again because the narcissist’s personality is extremely resistant to change.I pray for each of you that you don’t ever find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist.Trying to get a narcissist to say they were wrong or to apologize in a heartfelt way is a losing game – it’s simply not going to happen.
If you get an apology, odds are that it is issued as a means to keep the peace and get you off their back – not because they really mean it.
In fact, these individuals often have a lot going for them: attractiveness, an outgoing personality, and well-cultivated social skills.
The narcissist is usually well put-together, charming, intelligent, and focused on emerging in every social arena as superior.
It goes like this: ‘See how much everyone wants me?
Don’t forget it.’ The underlying message: Don’t forget I have more power than you in the relationship. Narcissists can’t tolerate the simplest whiff of criticism.
Making a relationship work with someone who is so emotionally injured and defensive is next to impossible, so why waste your time trying?