Dating with erectile dysfunction
Especially when the couple moves from dating to mating in domesticity!
This is important because our bodies don’t always work with Swiss-watch precision, especially the squidgy reproductive bits.I myself menstruated for most of 1993, which was hard to explain to the one or two sensitive longhairs I managed to lure out of the hacky-sack circle and back to the trundle bed in my college apartment.Other times I only trickled the color of root beer every few months. And any situation that requires creativity, adaptability and empathy can be good for you sexually.In this kind of situation I usually sit down with both people separately as well as seeing them together. When you eliminate one leg the stool often topples.His fiancée had been blaming herself, “He obviously doesn’t find me attractive any more. Once I helped her to realize that his erection problems had nothing to do with her, it turned out that she wasn’t nearly as attached to a hard penis as he had imagined.This explains why my last two “relationships” were glacially paced and full of misleading communication – and never got out of the gates when it came to any sort of physicality. Guy #1: I spent more and more time with this gentleman.
It was clear he was interested in me and I made sure that there were opportunities for him to make sexual advances, but when there was a chance to get closer physically, he didn’t do anything. Finally I asked him point blank what his intentions were, and he balked.
In my neck of the woods the majority of therapists see mainly women (probably about 80% of their clients).
Not so for me – more than half my clients are male, and when I work with a couple it is more often the men who initiate conjoint therapy.
It can make for a big opportunity to look beyond sexual performance to deep bonding with each another.
The danger is not the lack of an erection, but what each of you makes of it.
I think this is because many guys tend to become very uptight about their penis, what Paul Joannides (author of ) calls “deadwood – the bummer in your pants”.